Navigating Life: Things In My Control

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Life often seems like a whirlwind of events and emotions, pushing and pulling us in different directions. Amidst this chaos, it’s easy to lose ourselves. However, there’s a serene power in acknowledging that amidst the unpredictability, certain aspects are firmly within our control. There are some parts of life where we hold the reins, guiding our journey with intention and purpose.

1. My Habits

Our habits shape our days and, in turn, our lives. From the moment we wake up to how we wind down, our habits are threads woven into the fabric of our existence. Embracing positive habits nurtures discipline and self-improvement, reminding us that every small choice matters.


2. My Routines

Routines provide structure amid disorder. They offer a sense of stability and predictability, grounding us in the present moment. By crafting routines that align with our goals and values, we create a framework for success and well-being.


3. Where I Put My Energy

Energy is a finite resource, and where we invest, it profoundly influences our experiences. Being mindful of where we direct our energy—nurturing relationships, pursuing passions, or fostering personal growth—empowers us to deliberately shape our reality.


4. How I Care for My Body

Our bodies are our most faithful companions on this journey. Nourishing them with proper food, exercise, and rest is an act of self-love. By listening to our bodies’ needs and respecting its limits, we can enhance our overall well-being and vitality.


5. What I Do with My Free Time

Free time is a treasure, and how we spend it reflects our priorities. Engaging in activities that bring joy, relaxation, and fulfillment enriches our lives. It might be reading a book, pursuing a hobby, or simply spending quality time with loved ones—whatever replenishes the soul. I try to be conscious with how much of my free time I am spending on a screen. 


6. My Faith and Spiritual Journey

For many, faith provides a guiding light in life’s darkest moments. Whatever form it takes, nurturing our spirituality connects us to something greater than ourselves. It instills hope, resilience, and a profound sense of purpose, reminding us of the significance of our existence.


7. My Awareness of My Thoughts

Our thoughts have a profound impact on our emotions and actions. Cultivating self-awareness allows us to observe our thoughts without judgment. In doing so, we can choose empowering, positive thoughts, fostering emotional well-being and resilience in the face of challenges.


8. How I Communicate My Boundaries

Setting boundaries is an act of self-respect. Communicating what is acceptable and what is not in our relationships ensures that we are surrounded by supportive, understanding individuals. It paves the way for healthier connections and protects our mental and emotional well-being.


9. How I Choose to Show Up for My Values

Our values are the compass guiding our decisions and actions. Living in alignment with our values creates a life of authenticity and purpose. It’s not merely about professing our values but embodying them daily, shaping our interactions and choices accordingly.


In acknowledging these aspects of life that we can control, we step into our own power. We become captains of our destinies, navigating the vast ocean of life with purpose and determination. Embracing these elements fosters a sense of agency, reminding us that even in the face of life’s uncertainties, we have the ability to steer our ship toward the shores of fulfillment and contentment.



As we’ve delved into the things we can control in our lives, it’s important to remember that not everything can be steered by our actions. There will always be elements beyond our control—life’s unpredictable twists and turns, external circumstances, and the actions of others.

If you’re interested in exploring how to navigate these aspects, see: “Navigating Life: Things Out of My Control (But Still in My Circle of Influence).” In it, I discuss how to adapt, respond, and find peace when faced with situations we can’t change but can influence to some degree.

Meagan Wilson is a parent educator and author of the now-retired seasonal series of Whole Family Rhythms. After finishing a BA, she went on to complete her Foundations in Steiner Education and Anthroposophy at Sydney Steiner College, as well as her Waldorf Early Childhood Certification at the Rudolf Steiner Centre in Toronto. She has received her certification as a Simplicity Parenting Family Life Coach and has supported hundreds of parents to create a strong family rhythm unique to their own values and culture. She has four young children. Meagan provides resources, support and information to parents who are looking for a bridge to cross between their unique family life and their children’s (often but not always) Waldorf schools.

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