Navigating Life: Things Out of My Control (But Still in My Circle of Influence)

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In the grand tapestry of life, there are threads we can weave, and then there are those beyond our reach. There is a dance between what we can control and what we can. Sometimes, it helps me to remember and connect with what falls within my circle of influence and what doesn’t. But some things are somewhere in the middle. Below is a (non-finite) list of things that are out of my control (but still in my circle of influence).


1. When one value needs to be prioritized over another one

Life often throws us curveballs, forcing us to prioritize one value over another. It could be a choice between career progression and spending quality time with loved ones. While we might not control the circumstances, we can control our responses and choices. Embracing what we value most empowers us to make decisions aligned with our principles, steering our lives in directions that resonate with our core beliefs.


2. What I can do with my time at any given moment

In the hustle and bustle of daily life, how we spend our time defines our experiences. Focusing on the present moment allows us to channel our energy into tasks that matter. Each moment presents an opportunity to positively influence our surroundings, whether through a kind gesture, a creative expression, or simply being there for someone in need.


3. How other people respond to my boundaries

The way people respond to our boundaries is often beyond our control. However, establishing and communicating our limits is an essential act of self-care. By nurturing a healthy sense of self-worth, we create a circle of influence that fosters positive relationships and emotional well-being.


4. The lessons the universe is offering me

Everyday lessons come in the most unexpected ways. Even in challenging situations, there are opportunities for growth and self-discovery. By embracing these lessons, we expand our circle of influence, gaining wisdom and resilience that empower us to navigate future hurdles with grace.


5. How my body feels day to day

Our bodies are remarkable vessels, constantly communicating with us. We can make choices that promote our well-being by paying attention to how our bodies feel daily. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate rest are within our influence, contributing to a healthier, more vibrant life. If you’re interested in connecting a little more to your menstrual cycle, you might want to check this printable out.


6. Cultural Conditioning

Cultural conditioning shapes our perspectives and beliefs, often without us realizing it. By questioning societal norms and biases, we expand our circle of influence. We can challenge outdated ideologies through open-mindedness and empathy, fostering a more inclusive and understanding world for ourselves and future generations.


7. My stress responses

Stress is an inevitable part of life, but our response to it lies within our control. We can manage stress effectively through mindfulness practices, relaxation techniques, and seeking support when needed. By cultivating calm amidst chaos, we enhance our circle of influence, ensuring our well-being even in adversity.


8. Our family schedule and even the way our genes are  expressed

Our family schedules and the genetic expressions within our bodies are interconnected facets of our lives. We can positively influence gene expression by fostering strong family bonds and maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Love, laughter, and shared experiences strengthen familial connections, contributing to emotional well-being and physical health.


Life is an intricate balance between control and surrender. By recognizing the factors within our circle of influence, we can make conscious choices, nurture our well-being and foster positive change in the world around us. Embracing what we can control while gracefully accepting what we cannot allows us to navigate life’s unpredictable journey with wisdom, strength, and a heart full of gratitude.

While we might not control or choose every thread, we certainly hold the needle.


If you enjoyed this exploration of life’s balance, check out our related blog post, “Navigating Life: Things Out of My Control.” It delves deeper into accepting life’s uncertainties with grace and resilience. 



Meagan Wilson is a parent educator and author of the now-retired seasonal series of Whole Family Rhythms. After finishing a BA, she went on to complete her Foundations in Steiner Education and Anthroposophy at Sydney Steiner College, as well as her Waldorf Early Childhood Certification at the Rudolf Steiner Centre in Toronto. She has received her certification as a Simplicity Parenting Family Life Coach and has supported hundreds of parents to create a strong family rhythm unique to their own values and culture. She has four young children. Meagan provides resources, support and information to parents who are looking for a bridge to cross between their unique family life and their children’s (often but not always) Waldorf schools.

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