Navigating Life: Things Out of My Control

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Life, with all its twists and turns, often feels like a rollercoaster ride. We can plan, prepare, and work hard, but certain aspects remain beyond our control. In this journey, we encounter elements that shape our experiences, teaching us valuable lessons about acceptance, resilience, and the art of letting go. 


1. Genes

Our genetic makeup lays the foundation for who we are, from physical attributes to predispositions. While we can make choices to maintain our health, the genes we inherit are beyond our control. Embracing our unique traits and appreciating the diversity in our genetic codes can lead to a greater understanding of ourselves and others.


2. The Past

The past has already shaped our present with its joys and sorrows. We cannot alter what has happened, but we can learn from it. Accepting or letting go of the past allows us to focus on the present moment and work towards a brighter future. Every experience, whether positive or negative, contributes to our growth and resilience.


3. Suffering

Suffering is a universal human experience that often arises from circumstances beyond our control. While we can’t eliminate suffering, we can choose how we respond to it. Allowing time and space for grief and processing is utterly essential. Cultivating a mindset of acceptance and developing coping mechanisms can help us navigate life’s challenges with grace and courage.


4. The Weather

Nature’s elements, including the weather, follow their own course. Rain falls, seasons change, and storms come and go. Our response to these natural phenomena can teach us patience and adaptability. Finding beauty in every weather pattern, appreciating the sunny days and embracing the cold ones can remind us of the cyclical nature of life.


5. Tragedy and Loss

Tragedy and loss are profound, often unexpected, and deeply painful. Grieving is a natural response, and it’s essential to acknowledge and express our emotions. While we can’t control tragic events, we can support one another through empathy and understanding. Injustice within tragedy may spark activation and a desire to speak up for reparations. In times of loss, the power of human connection becomes a beacon of hope.


6. Exact Outcome

Life is inherently uncertain, and the exact outcome of our efforts is unpredictable. Embracing the uncertainty liberates us from the burden of unrealistic expectations. It allows us to focus on the process rather than fixating on a specific result. In this journey, the joy lies not just in reaching our goals but also in the lessons learned and the experiences gained along the way.


7. How Other People Feel, Think, and Act

The thoughts, feelings, and actions of others are beyond our control. People will form opinions, make choices, and behave in ways that we might not always understand. Accepting this reality fosters healthier relationships and promotes emotional well-being. It allows us to appreciate the diversity of perspectives and the richness it adds to our lives.


While we can’t control every twist and turn, we can control how we respond. Embracing the unknown with an open heart and a resilient spirit can transform challenges into opportunities for growth. 

Meagan Wilson is a parent educator and author of the now-retired seasonal series of Whole Family Rhythms. After finishing a BA, she went on to complete her Foundations in Steiner Education and Anthroposophy at Sydney Steiner College, as well as her Waldorf Early Childhood Certification at the Rudolf Steiner Centre in Toronto. She has received her certification as a Simplicity Parenting Family Life Coach and has supported hundreds of parents to create a strong family rhythm unique to their own values and culture. She has four young children. Meagan provides resources, support and information to parents who are looking for a bridge to cross between their unique family life and their children’s (often but not always) Waldorf schools.

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